Tradition can be helpful when we use it to anchor our life’s boat, with freedom to move in and out a will.
However, it can be harmful when it becomes a “Dead Sea” of entanglement, not allowing us to grow, think and feel. It then becomes a negative standard by which to measure ourselves, and we will usually come up wanting.
This may be a good year to adopt a new paradigm about tradition. Use it as a potluck buffet. You bring something to it and can choose what you want to take from it. Give yourself permission to enjoy tradition rather than find shoulds in it.
Unmet and impossible or improbable expectations make for unhappiness. Stir up some happiness by relaxing your expectations. You might even pull out each expectation and ask yourself if it still (or ever did) applies to you.
The less rigid your expectations are, the more pleasant surprises you may find in daily living.
Break bread with life. Who could want for more?
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