I just got home from a 3,000 mile trip to see my oldest grandson graduate from high school. It was worth every minute of the long hard trip. His smile was radiant in the bright orange cap and gown and I could not help but remember holding him as a baby, and hugging and visiting with him across the years.
As a senior citizen, I notice that times like this bring out the hopes and fears we all hold for the future of the younger members of our families. I recall when my older son graduated from college I just couldn’t find a graduation card which expressed my feelings, so I had to write one.
A Graduation Card from Mother to Son
When I look back I remember my firstborn son . . .
I recall you as:
- A very special baby full of energy and humor.
- A tot who adored his grandad and helped make his last years truly fine.
- An early rising boy who watched the test pattern but was on his way outside before the TV came on.
- A lad who got his cleaning chores done on Saturday mornings before I could finish opening my eyes.
- A youth able to catch a fly in midflight, make the best lasagna ever, show more horse sense than anyone, yet not ever too good to work hard when friends or neighbors needed his help.
- A college son who was there for me when the hurricanes hit.
- A young man whom I admired from a distance, one already experienced in both joy and grief.
You will find you’ve inherited both good and bad from your parents, and it is now your task to cultivate your very own future – using past and present ingredients to become who you daily choose to be. Forgive me that I could not give your everything. I gave you the best I could at the time. You’ll always have my blessing . . . and my love.
My graduation wish for you would be:
- Sparkles of Joy although I know to see the shine will take some background sorrows,
- Success of Dreams Fulfilled though to reach goals will take hard climbing, boring plateaus, and some scraped knees.
- Perfect choices even if to find them you have to wade through a lot of froggin’ mistakes and examples of Murphy’s Law.
- L o v e from and for others, and especially yourself.
Hope you’ll understand I must smile and cry at your graduation.
I smile at how proud I am of you.
I cry that I cannot make it easy, and that I am losing some of the pleasure of your presence.
Let my tears be a saline streamlet from which you sail out into the sea of life.
In a sturdy craft yet rolling with the waves which are surely there, while enjoying both the splashes and the seabirds.
May your future be as fine as the joy I’ve had in being your mother.
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Older adults who have been involved with children or grandchildren carry a treasure trove of memories. Pull them out, dust them off, and look them over at this time of year when young folks are graduating. Hold those memories close as you do a little yoga. It will give you a healthy infusion of tender memories which act as a vitamin for your soul.
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