No Fault Aging – A Look at Aging Proactively Without Regret

Aging Proactively With Humor and Friendships - click
Aging Proactively With Humor and Friendships – click
We’ve all heard about the hardships of growing older. True, yes, but since people are living longer maybe it’s time to talk about the advantages of aging!

Aging is the blessing granted for those who are still alive in later years. Many challenges must be faced for those farther along on the journey, but even as there are rewards in long distance sports events, so there are also great vistas to enjoy as one ages. All that is needed is to let go, get on with the grief, accept new and diverse ideas, and not waste precious time blaming or worrying about what you can’t do any more.

Accepting Limitations of Aging

No doubt there is grief to be had in facing the situations where aging limits an older adult. But there is life beyond the grief! So seniors and Boomers would be well-advised to pass through the grief instead of getting stuck in it. Sometimes it is in order to let go of some things in order to introduce new and interesting vistas to your life.

Some benefit from actually making a list. Write a limitation (e.g. not being able to kneel to garden) and an alternative life-affirming action (like indoor plants or a small raised garden area). It could be even a plant by the window where the morning coffee may be enjoyed while finding joy and solace in nature.

Seniors Can Try New Things

Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken and Dr. Suess got their starts later in life. My midget grandma started designing shell boxes, stars, moons, and other objects of shell art in her 60s. Look into diverse ideas and options and grow in your level of acceptance of others.

The world is full of new opportunities and interests available for the taking:

  • If you haven’t joined the computer world, try a Go Computer and find a new world.
  • Consider a hobby. People who have always wanted to knit go the Ewe Ewe Knitting Ministry at Northwoods Unitarian Universalist Church in The Woodlands, Texas.
  • Senior centers are available in many areas. The Friendship Center at The Woodlands offers bridge, quilting circle, luncheons, and other activities.
  • Play around with a musical instrument, or attend free or affordable concerts in your community.
  • Volunteer to help those less fortunate than you like the homeless, etc.

Do Not Sit Too Much in Retirement

Perhaps the most vital principle would be to not sit too much. Part of no-fault aging is accepting some of the responsibility for our own health. Many of these activities can be done during commercials:

  • Walk to the kitchen for a glass of water.
  • Walk to the bathroom to floss or brush.
  • Walk to a window or outside and look in the yard for birds, or just a moment of nature.
  • That just might inspire you to bend down and pull up a weed or two, or pick a flower.

Seniors Can Practice No Fault Thinking About Aging

Using humor and alternative behaviors can go a long way toward getting past fault type thinking.

  • When a senior can’t hear a conversation, it is tempting to think, “That person just isn’t talking right!” Instead try making a request for repeating or volume in a kindly tone of voice.
  • When written material becomes harder to read, a senior may think no one knows how to print big enough. Try a magnifier or enlarging the font. Talking Books is another possible avenue for help.
  • When feeling left out, try joining in somewhere. It could be church, attending a school program, or a senior center. Mentoring a child can be thrilling for both parties. Don’t give a bad situation more attention than it deserves. Do something else. Even a trip to get a loaf of bread can liven an older person’s day.

This is a good time of life for senior citizens to consider no-fault aging – looking at aging proactively without regret. Since looking back at fault or regret does not help, it seems appropriate to look forward into the sunshine of the future. Accept limitations of aging while refusing to get bogged down in anger, bitterness about declining health or other challenges. Recognize that life isn’t fair but there is a lot of living to do down the road. Walk confidently into the journey of aging and grow bold along with me!


About grantutor

Career educator in both public and private schools. Has tutored all ages. Writes about education, parenting, & seniors. Sings harmony with folk/rock group and a choir. Caregiver for spouse who dealt with Stage IV cancer. Happy person committed to nature and conservation of a green world.
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