Grief Tearbook: The Sadness Stage – Why?

This is the “Be With the Pain” stage of grief. Depression — The Pits: You don’t want to wallow but you suffer deeply as you try to brush yourself off and look for a way out.   .   .


Why?        Why live or die?

Why try?

I know I need positive but I can’t find anything festive in this time of year. . .

Not even can recreation be restive to qualm my fear:

That I might ought to take charge over my future (no matter what that means?)

And not let myself be hurt anymore.


Divorce, get a horse, use legal force?

(I won’t argue any more; it hurts too much.)


All I really want is caring.

Without it life’s hardly worth bearing.


He says he never means it.

I ask what he recommends I do when he says something he doesn’t mean to me.

How am I go know?   How is the pain to go?


Down we all slowly go (or have we been there all along?)

On and on goes the dirge, and the silent sad song.


Note: One must remember that grief stages are to be gone THROUGH, not get stuck in. Things usually get better, and the next stage, acceptance, will eventually show up around the corner:-)

Copyright by Hildra Tague. Obtain permission of author for use online or in print.


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Career educator in both public and private schools. Has tutored all ages. Writes about education, parenting, & seniors. Sings harmony with folk/rock group and a choir. Caregiver for spouse who dealt with Stage IV cancer. Happy person committed to nature and conservation of a green world.
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One Response to Grief Tearbook: The Sadness Stage – Why?

  1. Pingback: Grief Tearbook Introduction: From Grief to Growth | Hildra Tague's Celebrations of Learning Blog

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